Q: My daughter is 18 months old. She has an outgoing nature and gets stuck in to the toys and games at nursery and playgroup. But I am worried because she doesn't seem to connect with other children when she is playing. Is this normal, or should I consider having this looked into? Or maybe I am just being a paranoid mother?

A: Worrying about your child's development is one of less pleasurable aspects of parenthood, but one that is inevitable and absolutely justified. So you are not a paranoid mother for being concerned about something you do not believe is right.

However, it does sound as though you are worrying for little reason. Child development experts believe that children do not necessarily seek the interaction of other children until they are around three years of age. Until then, it is entirely normal for a child to play happily by themselves, despite being with their peers.

Very young children are busy mastering a whole host of skills, as well as discovering new and interesting things - and at this point a squeaky toy, puzzle or shape sorter can be of far more interest than anyone else!

Instead of worrying, have you observed how children of a similar age play? It is likely to be the case that, if you take a step back and watch what else is going on, your daughter will be behaving in exactly the same way as any other toddler of a similar age.

The most important thing is that your daughter is displaying all the other signs of good development, such a proficient movement; attempting to convey simple and basic words; taking interest in books and toys and how they work; and finding pleasure in activities such as drawing or shaking musical instruments. Additionally, as long as she is interacting well with you, there is little to be concerned about at this particular age.

Finally, try to resist directly comparing your daughter to other children. Although there are commonly accepted developmental milestones, every child is different and some will develop far quicker in one area, and a little slower in the next.

And don't forget that your GP or health visitor will be able to provide extra reassurance and advice if you remain particularly concerned over this aspect of your daughter's development.

Do you worry about your child's development or do you believe in nature taking its course?