Q: I have a one-year-old daughter and I am a free spirit when it comes to parenting. I don't believe in routine and I think a child should develop her own rhythms naturally. But I feel like I am being judged by all my parenting friends. Their children follow routines and they tell me I ought to be doing the same for my daughter's sake. But I am happy as I am. Am I wrong to focus on child-led parenting?
A: Raising a child is the hardest job in the world and, as we all know, it does not come with an instruction manual. Everyone has their own ideas on what's right and what's wrong and, equally, many people feel their way is the right way and the only way.
There are also many books and websites dedicated to the mechanics of parenting and, with so many conflicting theories out there, it can be difficult to maintain faith in your own opinions.
Routine-led parenting is always a popular choice among parents but it is entirely up to you to decide exactly how you organise your child's day. So the simple answer is there is no right or wrong. And this is where you will definitely find it more useful to listen to your instinct rather than criticisms from your friends
The most important aspect of raising a child is to ensure she is eating, growing and developing well, and is achieving the acknowledged milestones more or less on cue.
If your daughter is making progress with all of these things, and is settled and happy, then trust your decision. You are after all her mother and there is no better judge of her character than you. So, try to ignore your friends and politely ask them to concentrate on their own child and leave you to concentrate on yours.
Finally, if you are feeling isolated in your choice of parenting, it is always worth going online and searching for other like-minded parents on many of the parenting sites that are out there.
It is more than likely to be the case that there are forums or internet circles you can join to boost your confidence. You can also chat through any frustrations you may be experiencing with your style of parenting, as well as celebrate your successes.

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