A devastated mum has told how nurses asked her if she wanted to make up a memory box for the little baby boy she had carried for nine months, before whisking him away from the delivery room after just 45 minutes together.
Carolyn, 40, and Sean Savage, from Ohio, USA, had three children already; two conceived naturally, and one via IVF. They decided to turn to IVF again to conceive what would be their final, much wanted baby.
But the child Carolyn ended up carrying was never to be theirs: a tragic mix-up in a fertility clinic had left the horrified expectant mum pregnant with someone else's baby. Her devout Christian views had meant she could not terminate the pregnancy, and after delivering little Logan, she handed him over to his biological parents, Shannon and Paul Morell.
Seventeen months later, Carolyn has talked of the 'bereavement process' she and her husband Sean have been through, saying that they are now in the 'acceptance' stage.
She said, we've 'done anger and denial and depression. I think we are kind of in acceptance now, but it's not an altogether straight line'.
Speaking of Logan's birth, Carolyn said: 'I kissed him. I held him. I cried. But I also knew that our time was limited. Shannon and Paul were waiting in another room.'
Carolyn and Sean then left presents for Logan and signed papers to say they would never seek to be part of his life.
The families have since exchanged emails and photos, but the Savages admit it is not as many as they would like, despite admitting they have no rights to news or access:
'But we accept that we have no rights,' Carolyn says sadly. 'Who are we to demand anything? We cannot. Every photo we receive is a gift, and we know that. We simply couldn't pretend it had never happened. Logan's birth changed all our lives. We can't forget that, or him. He is their son, but he will always be my baby.'
What do you think about this story?
Could you have carried a baby for 9 months then handed him over, even if you were not his biological mum?
Do you think this kind of mix-up should be expected when people turn to IVF?
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That is utterly heartbreaking and another reason nature should not be tampered with!
October 13 2011 at 8:41 AM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down Replythis doesnt happen often and lots of babies are born through very sucsessful ivf, i myself have had two beautiful baby daughters through ivf, some people just need a little help along the way, its not tampering with nature, its helping couples become parents.
October 13 2011 at 9:10 AM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down ReplyThis should never happen with IVF, the proper checks of identity between recipient and donor specimen could not have been done. In a country like USA where they are so litigation conscious it makes it so unbelievable.
October 13 2011 at 6:41 AM Report abuse Permalink +1 rate up rate down ReplyHell nor high water could've taken my babies away from me!
No one can appreciate the pain this 'mother' must be going through.
However, he was never biologically hers, that makes a difference, and she knows it.
He may not have been biologically hers but she carried him inside her, felt the first small flutterings of his life to the final kicksand movement of the last few months! Her body nurtured him, fed him and grew him before she finally went through the emotional painful birth! Only a man could say such rubbish!
October 13 2011 at 8:43 AM Report abuse Permalink +2 rate up rate down Replythis is very sad .................but if you have baby inside you how can it not be part of you.
I feel sorry for all
nightmare for both set of parents, there are no winners in this one are there. both have lost, giving up what was never to be and then to nurture what was given to you by a mistake. modern science has gone a long way, shame they could not of kept this hidden and left the baby with the set who gave birth all this pain for one child, how will this baby deal with it all later one i wonder.
October 12 2011 at 11:18 AM Report abuse Permalink +5 rate up rate down ReplyThis is a very sad example of what happens when we don't accept what nature intended for us.
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