Our miracle baby cost us £40,000 - and she's worth every penny
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The IVF treatments were so expensive that Gary's father SOLD his house to help them cover the costs.
But after the safe arrival of their healthy daughter Alice, the couple say their eight year costly battle has been worth every penny.
Karen, who lives in Chesham, Buckinghamshire, says: "Not many babies come with a £40,000 price tag, but she has been worth every penny.
After so many IVF treatments we were on the verge of giving up hope of ever being parents. But now she is here with us, she has been worth the wait.
Karen, 43, a medical secretary, says: "I had thought I would fall pregnant straight away as I was young and healthy. But after nearly three years nothing had happened. So we went to see our GP who referred us for tests."
The couple were seen by fertility specialists at Chiltern Hospital. Tests revealed that Gary, 44, a retail salesman, had a low sperm count. So they decided to embark on a course of IVF treatment in August 2006.
But the treatment failed, and the couple were devastated.
Karen says: "We had been pinning all our hopes on the treatment working. We thought by having IVF it would mean that I was definitely be able to fall pregnant. When tests showed the eggs hadn't even fertilised we were just devastated."
They had their second attempt a few months later. This time the eggs were fertilised but two embryos put back into Mrs McLaren's womb but the treatment didn't work.
They then underwent a third attempt and again two embryos were put back into her womb. But again, to their despair, two weeks later they were told the treatment hadn't worked.
We really thought it had worked that time. But then two weeks later I did a pregnancy test and it was negative. It was like being on an emotional rollercoaster.
After their fourth and fifth attempts both failed, the doctors carried out more tests and then told Karen that her eggs were damaged, and they needed to start looking at using eggs from a donor.
They decided to look for a donor with similar physical characteristics to Mrs McLaren and underwent their sixth course of IVF.
The mounting costs were met by the couple's savings and Gary's father sold his house to help them pay for the treatment.
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Karen says: "We were so grateful to Gary's dad for helping us out as we couldn't have afforded to pay for it all ourselves. He knew how desperate we were to become parents, so he decided to help us out.
"We were hopeful this time that it would work as we weren't using my eggs, so there wasn't any risk of them being damaged.
"But that attempt failed too. We were nearly on the verge of giving up trying. I was getting worried because I was by now over the age of 40 and any pregnancy would be more risky.
We had been through so much and it had cost thousands of pounds, that we didn't know whether we could put ourselves through any more.
The couple decided to have one last try in February last year and this time only one egg was fertilised.
Karen says: "It really was our last ditch attempt. We had spent £40,000 so far and this treatment had only produced one embryo that we could use. That one embryo was put back into my womb and we had to wait to see if it would work.
"We had already been through six failed attempts, so I thought that this was going to fail too. There was only one embryo put back, rather than two, so we had even less chance of it working."
But then two weeks later the couple got the news that had been dreaming of for eight years. Mrs McLaren was pregnant.
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She says: "I just couldn't believe it. We had been through so many treatments and none of them had worked. Yet we just had this final little embryo - the only one that had fertilised in the last treatment - and it had actually worked. I couldn't believe I was pregnant after all these years of trying."
Thankfully Karen's pregnancy went smoothly and baby Alice was born in November 2010, weighing a healthy 6lb 8oz.
She says: "It was the most emotional experience when she was born. Both Gary and I couldn't stop crying when we held her for the first time.
She was born on our seventh attempt, on the 7th November, seven weeks before Christmas. She really was our little miracle.
Congratulations Karen and Gary on celebrating Alice's first baby - a milestone you once never thought you'd get to.
Celebrity parents’ fertility struggles
- Chantelle Houghton and Alex Reid<p> After admitting she was worried crash dieting had left her infertile, Chantelle announced she was <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2011/11/15/chantelle-houghton-pregnant-with-alex-reid-baby/" target="_blank">pregnant</a> with boyfriend, Alex Reid’s baby, after a whirlwind romance of just six months. The couple were set to try IVF when they announced the happy news that they had conceived naturally. In the past, Alex had admitted to having his sperm count tested after struggling to conceive with ex-wife, Katie Price.</p> <p> <strong>Chantelle says:</strong> “Oh my God! I'm pregnant. Let me through - I'm going to be the yummiest mummy there is. I'm milking it, trust me. I've told my friends and family, if I'm going through it, you're all going through it."</p>

- Julia Bradbury<p> Countryfile presenter Julia didn’t think she would ever be a <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2011/02/28/julia-bradbury-miracle-baby-for-tv-star-at-40/" target="_blank">mum</a> after being diagnosed with endometriosis at 33. But she conceived her first child, <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2011/08/04/julia-bradbury-gives-birth-to-baby-son-and-youll-never-guess/" target="_blank">Zephyr</a> with her boyfriend, Gerard Cunningham at 41, and is over the moon to finally be a mum.</p> <p> <strong>Julia says:</strong> “I have endometriosis. Because of this condition, I wasn't sure if I would ever realise my ambition to be a mum, so it all feels like a bit of a miracle.”</p>

- Kate Silveton<p> Kate and her husband, Michael Herron, finally <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2011/11/06/kate-silverton-gives-birth-to-first-baby/" target="_blank">became parents</a> on 5<sup>th</sup> November 2011, after conceiving naturally following four failed rounds of IVF. The couple welcomed their ‘miracle’ baby, Clemency, and made us all coo by proudly sharing some <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2011/11/11/first-pic-proud-mum-kate-silverton-shows-off-new-baby-clemency/" target="_blank">very cute shots</a> of the little lady.</p> <p> <strong>Kate says:</strong> “This baby is the closest it gets to a miracle for me. Mike and I resigned ourselves to being childless. We felt desperately sad about it but, as a positive person, my philosophy was that everyone faces challenges in life, and very often much worse than ours.”</p>

- Brooke Shields<p> Brooke conceived her eldest daughter, Rowan after six rounds of IVF and a miscarriage. At 40, three years after giving birth to Rowan, she got the shock of her life when she conceived her second daughter, Grier, naturally.</p>

- Gabby and Kenny Logan<p> Sports presenter Gabby and her husband, Kenny welcomed twins Lois and Reuben following IVF treatment after a three year battle with ‘unexplained infertility’. Gabby recently revealed she has <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2011/09/26/gabby-logan-pregnancy-dilemma-should-i-use-stored-embryos-to-have-baby/" target="_blank">embryos in storage,</a> but the couple say they are undecided about using them for more IVF treatment to try for another baby.</p> <p> <strong>Gabby says:</strong> “We both wanted to be quite young parents. We are both very positive people, so we didn’t really get down when nothing happened. Every month, when I realised I wasn’t pregnant, I’d think, 'Oh well, next month will be fine.' Sometimes I’d have a couple of days of feeling defeated, but I soon moved on.”</p>

- Mariah Carey<p> <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2011/02/02/mariah-carey-pregnancy-its-girl-and-a-boy/" target="_blank">Mariah and husband, Nick Cannon</a> are now proud parents to twins, <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2011/05/04/mariah-careys-twins-names-revealed/" target="_blank">Moroccan and Monroe,</a> but the path to parenthood wasn’t easy for the pair. Back in 2008, Mariah suffered a miscarriage and afterwards started fertility treatment to help her conceive and carry her baby to full term. The result? Her gorgeous twins, who mum and dad, of course, dote on.</p>

- Marcia Cross<p> Desperate Housewives star Marcia always wanted to be mum, even before she married now-hubby, Tom Mahoney. Having struggled with fertility in the past, Marcia and Tom conceived twins, Savannah and Eden, through IVF, and welcomed her longed-for girls in 2007.</p> <p> <strong>Marcia says:</strong> “We decided to skip our honeymoon and try In Vitro after the wedding. I had already been through infertility treatments. It’s very, very difficult to get pregnant in your 40s. It’s costly and tough on your body and your relationship.”</p>

- Trinny Woodall<p> Feisty Trinny from What Not To Wear tried IVF nine times before welcoming daughter Lila with now ex-husband, Johnny Elichaoff. Welcoming Lila, the overjoyed new mum couldn’t hide her excitement, saying: “I'm so happy, I can't tell you how overjoyed I am.”</p>

- Helena Bonham Carter<p> After having her first child, Billy Ray, with partner, Tim Burton, Helena and Tim struggled to conceive again and tried the fertility drug, Clomid. She had terrible side effects, she went on to try acupuncture and finally fell pregnant naturally with her daughter, Nell, who was born in 2007.</p> <p> <strong>Helena says:</strong> “Obviously, you don't know what you'd do unless you were actually in that situation. I think we might have gone for a round of IVF, but that would have been that. There was an argument for just having one child, because we thought if that's the way it's meant to be, so be it."</p>

- Celine Dion<p> Songstress Celine tried for six years before conceiving her son, René-Charles, in 2001 with husband, René Angélil. She then went on to have six failed rounds of IVF, and a miscarriage before welcoming her twin boys, Eddy and Nelson in 2010.</p>

- Courtney Cox<p> Courtney suffered multiple miscarriages when she was trying to conceive naturally with her husband, David Arquette. After IVF success she welcomed her daughter, Coco just days before her 40<sup>th</sup> birthday.</p> <p> <strong>Courtney says:</strong> “I can't imagine life without having a child. Coco is everything to me. I had problems getting pregnant, we did IVF and it was tough.”</p>

- Chris and Natasha Evans<p> DJ Chris and wife, Natasha are <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2011/11/27/chris-evans-and-wife-natasha-expecting-second-child-IVF-ectopic/" target="_blank">expecting their second baby together</a> – after an ectopic pregnancy and IVF treatment. The couple are already proud parents to Noah, two and Chris is also dad to older daughter, Jade, from a previous relationship. Announcing the happy news, Chris said Natasha had suffered secondary infertility after having Noah, and then went on to lose a baby through an ectopic pregnancy, before turning to IVF.</p> <p> <strong>Chris says:</strong> “Tash's first pregnancy was practically textbook, so naively we thought a follow-up kid would be a cinch. Not so, however. Tash did fall pregnant 18 months ago but the pregnancy became ectopic, we lost the baby and, quite frankly, we almost lost my wife.”</p>

- Emma Thompson<p> After years spent trying to conceive naturally, Emma tried IVF for the first time at 40. She welcomed her daughter, Gaia, with her long-term partner, Greg Wise, and then later adopted a Rwandan refugee called Tindy.</p> <p> <strong>Emma says:</strong> “There's been an awful lot of grief to get through in not being able to get pregnant again, but there are thousands and thousands of women like me who can't have children.”</p>

- Hugh Jackman<p> Hollywood’s Hugh Jackman was left devastated when he and his wife Debra were told they had fertility problems, and tried IVF before having two miscarriages. The couple instead adopted two children, Oscar, 11 and <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2011/11/02/hugh-jackman-does-the-school-run/" target="_blank">Ava, six.</a></p> <p> <strong>Hugh says:</strong> "It was painful. We thought we'd have a kid or two biologically and then adopt. Obviously, biologically wasn't the way we were meant to have children. I don't think of them as adopted - they are our children."</p>

- Nicole Kidman<p> Nicole and country singer Keith Urban struggled to conceive baby number two when their first, Sunday Rose, was two. They opted for a surrogate mum to carry their baby, and welcomed baby Faith in December 2010. Nicole got stick when she announced Faith’s birth for referring to the surrogate mum as a ‘gestational carrier’ but later defended her comments, saying: “We were trying to be accurate. The term ‘gestational carrier’ is used if it’s your biological child and if it isn’t, then you use ‘surrogate.”</p> <p> <strong>Nicole says:</strong> "Anyone that's been in the place of wanting another child or wanting a child knows the disappointment, the pain and the loss that you go through trying and struggling with fertility. Fertility is such a big thing, and it's not something I've ever run away from talking about."</p>

- Penny Lancaster and Rod Stewart<p> Aging rocker Rod and wife, Penny tried for two years to give their son Alastair a sibling, finally conceiving baby <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2011/02/17/rod-stewart-and-penny-lancaster-have-baby-boy/" target="_blank">Aiden</a> through <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2010/09/13/rod-stewart-and-penny-lancaster-ivf-battle-baby/" target="_blank">IVF</a>, after trying treatment in both the UK and America. The couple say seeing Alastair’s face when they announced that Penny was pregnant made all the stress of fertility treatment worthwhile.</p> <p> <strong>Rod says:</strong> “IVF can be stressful, especially for the woman with all the hormone injections and procedures. I said to Penny, ‘Don’t worry, we’ll just keep trying’”.</p>





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