PA Heidi Klum bins her rubbish on a park trip with her children
Of course all this rubbish isn't dropped by kids; so if adults are doing it too, does this mean we're breeding a nation of litter bugs who will grow up to follow their parents' disgusting and disrespectful habits?
I was parked outside my daughter's school recently and watched in horror as another parent flicked her finished cigarette butt straight out of her window onto the pavement. There were plenty of pupils around to witness this.
What kind of example does this set when a parent can't be bothered to bin their own rubbish and think it's perfectly acceptable to throw it on the ground?
While rubbish on the floor is disgusting it's when it's thrown thoughtlessly from car windows it can be downright dangerous. Jessica's son Steven regularly cycles to and from school and has seen both cigarette butts and drinks cartons hurled from vehicles by both drivers and passengers.
"The roads can be dangerous enough without having to dodge rubbish that comes flying out of cars," says Jessica. And it was exactly this issue of rubbish being thrown from cars that hit the headlines recently when BBC newsreader Alice Arnold jumped from her car at a set of lights and threw back a plastic bottle she'd seen thrown out by the other driver.
While most of the parents I discussed this with were totally in support, (and awe), of Alice's actions; they all voiced concerns over whether they'd do the same thing and it was an overwhelming unanimous verdict that they wouldn't ever encourage their children to challenge strangers over dropped litter.
"You never know what response you're going to get," says mum-of-two, Joanne. "If they're the type of person to drop litter, they're unlikely to pick it up and apologise if you point out what they've done. And while I can handle somebody giving me a mouthful, it's not something I'd want my children to see." And I have to agree with Joanne as I wouldn't actively encourage my daughter to challenge strangers in this way.
Over the years there's been many high profile campaigns aimed at encouraging us to pick up our rubbish. The cuddly 'Wombles' with their recycling and tidying habits over Wimbledon Common got a serious message across a generation ago and today there are people like Gloucestershire shop keeper Yvonne Froud who plays her part in clearing up the neighbourhood by making school children write their name on any crisps and sweets they buy from her, as a deterrent.
Rather than actively 'teaching' our kids not to drop litter; for most of us it's probably more of case of leading by example.
If children see their parents throw rubbish in a bin; they may well copy the habit, but what happens if you don't do it; but your children do?
Sharon, a mum with one daughter, (now a teenager), says she was always brought up to use a bin but admits her daughter Emily went through a stage of unwrapping sweets and just dropping the paper. "I used to get really cross with her and always made her pick it up. I even warned her that a policeman would 'tell her off' and finally stopped her having sweets if we were out."
Dropping litter isn't just about being careless; it's a crime.
Under the Environmental Protection Act 1990 and the Clean Neighbourhoods And Environment Act you can face fines up to £80.
If you want to get involved with a clean up campaign in your community check out www.lovewhereyoulive.org for over three hundred projects currently on the go.
What not to say to mums
- 'I didn't know you were pregnant again!'<p> You might have a bit of <a href="http://www.parentdish.co.uk/2011/06/23/match-the-celebrity-mum-to-her-post-baby-tum/" target="_blank">mum tum,</a> but you, really, really don’t need anyone to point this out, let alone imply you’re expecting another baby. We suggest a cutting remark back, something like, ‘yes, but not twins like you, you must be thrilled!’ will do the trick.</p>

- 'She's beautiful, but doesn't look much like you, does she?'<p> Don’t rise to this one, it’s harmless, but can certainly hurt your feelings. Remember your baby is exactly that - you made her, and you’ve got the stretch marks to prove it!</p>

- 'Are you sure the way he's doing that is normal? I haven't seen other babies do it'<p> Of course, you’re not sure if it’s normal, or if your child is completely off the scale for oddness and has a life of anti-social behaviour stretching out in front of him. But actually you'd just thought it was sweet until then - and the last thing you want to do is discuss it.</p>

- 'Do you actually work or are you just at home with the kids?'<p> This one usually comes from someone without children, who has never done a night feed, morning routine and entire day with small people hanging off them and hasn’t a clue that yes, you work, every minute of every day, and usually through the night too. Suggest a ‘swap day’ where they look after your little ones and you head to their office. They’ll be begging for 9-5 back before you’ve even left the house.</p>

- 'You must be so busy!'<p> Yes, so please go home or help me.</p>

- 'Is it time for another?'<p> You’ve only just got your body and brain back from the first, and someone suggests this ridiculous idea.</p>

- 'What a beautiful boy!' (when you have a girl)<p> This one is inevitable, especially if you have a bald baggy in practical clothes. You'll get used to saying 'she' she's a girl' wearily. You really do not need to festoon your baby in pink and bows if you don't want to.</p>

- 'You've got that real mumsy look about you now'<p> You always said you’d never turn into a ‘mumsy mum’ and now someone has come right out and confirmed your fears. If this comes from someone younger and with anything less than a size 10 waist, you have permission to de-friend without delay.</p>

- 'If that was my child I'd...'<p> We don’t care! Like every good parenting book states, every child is different, so keep your bragging and comparisons to yourself thank you very much.</p>

- 'How much sleep are you getting?'<p> Ok, so the yawning and dark circles might give it away, but whoever asks this is clearly expecting a horror story answer. Give them one and enjoy the reaction quicker than you can say ‘eye bags’.</p>

- 'Don't you worry about what he's eating?'<p> Yes, constantly. The cupboards are stocked with every organic, free-from, no nasties, no preservatives children’s food on the market, costing a small fortune. But right now, cake is all that keeps the peace. And no, you can’t have any.</p>

- 'Poor little thing, does she need a feed?'<p> This is thoroughly unhelpful, especially if said in the middle of a supermarket, or on any overcrowded public transport. A scathing look should suffice.</p>





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